The key to handling back talk is stay calm and levelheaded. Don't get angry. Begin by acknowledging his feelings: "I understand that you're mad, and don't want to go to bed. But the way you're acting just isn't acceptable."

If you're creative, you might suggest a situation where just behavior would be acceptable: "Now if I were a bad guy trying to kidnap you, then you should kick and scream like this...but to act like this towards your Mom, who loves you and takes care of you.... that just isn't right!"

Another idea is to lighten the situation with a little humor, "Hey, I recognize this behavior from 'Hong Kong Phooey.' That's fine on Cartoon Network but it's not the way to treat your Mom." Remind your child why such behavior is not acceptable. "You need to talk to me in a polite and respectful way. You're being rude and that's not appropriate now."

Lastly, ask your child to rephrase or express himself in an acceptable way. When he does so, praise your child for speaking respectfully. Remember to stick to your guns. He still needs to go to bed. "Tomorrow is another day, but I so proud that you're my son." With a little effort, you will regained a sense of balance in your home and un-do the rudeness and sarcasm that your child has learned from cartoons on TV.

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