5. Be Friendly. A sparkling personality is worth its weight in?well?drinks. If you?re naturally effervescent, keep it up, and it won?t be long before love finds you. If you?re not, it just takes a bit more work.

It helps to look good and feel great. Then keep a smile on your face and focus on other people. One key to being a great conversationalist is to ask interesting questions. Things like, ?What do you do for a living?? And ?Where are you from?? will spark other questions or things you have in common.

Another way to score points in the friendly category is to be up on current events. This doesn?t mean you have to be a news junkie, but it helps to be abreast of current topics. With 24-hour news stations and breaking news on the Internet, it shouldn?t take long to become well-versed in the topics du jour. Oh, one note of caution: unless someone?s political affiliation is a deal-breaker for you, stay away from politics and religion.

6. Men, Whip Out Your Wallet. ?Can I buy you a drink?? is a sure sign of interest. Being too cheap to ask will get you a cold shoulder, followed by a cold shower ? alone.

This is where you need to walk a fine line. There are certainly women out there who want free drinks?and nothing else. So how can you tell the difference between a woman who is using you to get free drinks, and someone who is really interested?

By reading her body language. Is she looking directly at you, with dilated pupils and unblinking eyes, or is she looking somewhere else? Is she leaning into you, or is she pulling away from you? (For the entire scoop on body language, see Chapter 3 in Dating 101.)

If her body language is positive, ask her if she?d like something to drink. Then, while you?re sharing your first drink together, exchange business cards. If she doesn?t have a card (or doesn?t want to give you one), ask for a way to contact her. If she?s hesitant to give an email address or cell phone number, chances are good that she has no intention of seeing you again, so put your wallet away and move on.

If she readily gives you a way to contact her, you?ll score more points by being generous than by being frugal. And if you really want to score big, offer to call her a cab at the end of the evening, just to make sure she gets home okay.

7. Be Honest. If you?re not interested in someone, it?s better to make a graceful exit that to waste that person?s time. Something as simple as, ?I?ve enjoyed talking to you, but it?s time for me to go mingle,? lets the other person know that there you?re not seeing stars.

Honesty is always the best policy, because if you say you?re going to the bathroom and then never come back, you might end up with a stalker on your hands. If you?re the person being dumped, be gracious about it. Just because someone?s not interested in you right now, doesn?t mean things won?t change at some point in the future.

Because most of us tend to frequent the same places, chances are good that you may see that person again. Keep in mind that if you get angry and say something mean, you?ll never make it past ?hello? next time, so it pays to be nice.

8. Have Fun. Instead of putting unnecessary pressure on your big night out, give yourself a break. After all, tonight is only one night out of your life. Instead of having unrealistic expectations, grab a same-sex friend, and plan on having a good time. Without the pressure of having to find someone in five hours or less, you?re more likely to enjoy yourself.

Plus, when you?re laughing, talking and smiling, you?re more approachable than when you?re nervous or tense. After all, wouldn?t you rather chat with someone who?s laughing than someone who?s sitting in the corner alone, looking desperate and lonely?

Now that you know the eight easy steps to scoring big in a bar, get out there and do it. The first step toward winning the game is actually going out there and playing it. And just like any other game, this one takes practice. So if you don?t meet someone tonight, remember this ? there?s always tomorrow!

Melissa Darnay is a dating coach, a matchmaker, and a relationship humorist. For more information about Melissa or her latest book, ?Dating 101: The Instant Cure for Romance Blues,? go to www.CupidsGuide.com.

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